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“My after forty face felt far more comfortable than anything I lived with previously. Self-confidence was a powerful beauty-potion. Failure and grief as well as success and love had served me well. Finally, I was tapping into that most hard-won of youth dews: wisdom.”
Nancy A. Collins (American Horror Fiction Writer; September 10th, 1959)
“Many women confuse self-esteem with self-confidence. For me, self-esteem is how we really feel about ourselves in the secret sanctuary of our soul. Do we love, accept, and approve of ourselves unconditionally? Do we believe that we are worthy of the love of others and the best that life has to offer? The quality of our self-esteem is very deeply connected to the relationship with our first and most important critics, our parents. If they unconditionally loved, accepted, and approved of us, then we probably do, too.”
“But self-confidence is a special elixir that Spirit has prepared to help each of us face and surmount the challenges of life. It’s an aromatic blending of invigorating essences: attitude, experience, knowledge, wisdom, optimism, and faith.If we were fortunate enough to grow up in loving, supportive homes and our self-esteem is strong, we learned our own homeopathic formula early. If we did not, then we need to learn how to mix our own custom blend. What’s important to realize is that self-confidence is available to all of us.”
“An optimistic attitude is essential to self-confidence. So is learning from our mistakes and recognizing that everything in life can be used as a lesson once we are willing to be taught.”
“If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Mary Kay Ash (American Businesswoman and Founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, Inc.; May 12th, 1918 ~ November 22nd, 2001)
“Today, tell yourself that you can do anything you want to do. Because you can. Like an expensive perfume, only a smidgen of self-confidence is needed to embrace a woman’s authentic aura.”
“Before my story began…” (Heather Houston 3-21-22)
1972 Me…at my Aunt Carrie’s Baby Shower
“It is crazy to read this as I know my upbringing led to my low self-esteem…UGH!. However, I have an intention to build my self-confidence, which is in my control. The most important point I gathered from today’s reading was being willing to be taught from the lessons of life. I need to be ready to drop my story and put myself forth newly. This is scary territory to navigate, and I am willing to try.” (Heather Houston 3-21-22)
“As I chosen to embark on a healing journey with Prolonged Exposure (PE) Therapy to address my PTSD trauma, I realize I have not been wrong all these years wondering if it was me or them. Apparently, it was not me and I was the victim. As a survivor of sexual assault, I commit to this journey to face my fears, banish my shame and come out the other side reborn, newly with love in my heart and love in my life. Honestly, I am a bit scared and anxious and I think that is normal and healthy. Facing challenges in a new way so they lose their power over me is a new idea and it it is worth exploring so I can finally live free.” (Heather Houston 3-21-26)
–Ban Breathnach, Sarah. “Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy”. Grand Central Publishing. (1976). Kindle Page 87-88 of 501.
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The origins of Native American healing practice and ceremony are as diverse and rich as each of the hundreds of American tribes themselves. Nature has provided gifts that have been an important thread between native people and their spirituality. The Four Sacred Medicines (Tobacco, Cedar, Sage & Sweetgrass) have a historical and continuing cultural value to the spirit, physical & emotional well-being of native peoples.
Tobacco
Tobacco is shared as a gift, an offering to elders, healers and creator. Tobacco has a long-standing cultural history among native people, recognized as the first gift the creator bestowed upon the native people. As a ceremony in the sharing of the sacred peace pipe, tobacco symbolizes harmony & peace among those that share it with each other and their creator. Tobacco is an essential sacrament of Native American spiritual ceremony.
However, commercial tobacco used habitually is a carcinogen when consumed as a cigarette. As a result native people have sought to use naturally grown tobacco as part of spiritual sacrament. As the tobacco industry has historically engineered cigarettes to deliver nicotine as an addictive agent, tribes have looked to discourage the consumption of commercial cigarettes and nicotine for it’s addictive properties. “Nicotine has a pharmacological effect that crosses the blood-brain barrier intact.”*
It is believed that the movement to distinguish the use of Nicotiana Tabacum (commercial) versus the use of Nicotiana Rustica (traditional) began when native peoples sought to have traditional ceremonies with traditionally raised tobacco. Before the American Indian Religious Freedom act of 1978 it had been illegal to perform public native ceremonies with tobacco. As the commercial use (and abuse) of tobacco consumption became an abusive habitual culture, the need to appropriate traditional tobacco use in ceremony became greater.†
*Source: Dr. Jeffrey Wigand. †Source: American Indian Community Tobacco Project
Cedar
Cedar wood has antioxidant, antibiotic and anti-inflammatory properties and can be used to purify your home. It has restorative uses when mixed as a tea, where it can aid in fighting infections. Cedar is used in sweat lodges and is often used in smudging. Western Red Cedar leaves have long been a popular internal and external medicine for painful joints among Coastal Native Peoples. They have also been infused for cough medicine, tuberculosis and fevers. The leaves make wonderful incense and are used in smudging for purification.
Cedar is a powerful antimicrobial. Reflect on where it lives: cool wet forests where fungi and molds thrive. When you scratch cedar leaves or cut the wood, strong essential oils are released. These oils are cedar’s medicine to repel insects, molds, fungi, bacteria and viruses. Our ancestors discovered this long ago and used cedar’s medicine in and on themselves to ward off external forces.
Cedar leaf is a useful anti-fungal for skin and nail fungus. The tincture, infused oil or salve can be used topically and should be applied 2-3 times a day until a week after the fungus disappears. Fungal infections are pernicious and need to be treated aggressively. You can also soak your feet in cedar tea by steeping a cup of dried cedar leaves in about 10 cups of hot water. Let the tea steep until it is warm, and then place it in a bowl or basin large enough for your feet. Soak your feet for 10-15 minutes – a nice activity when you are reading or watching television.
Cedar promotes immune function through helping white blood cells to work better. By stimulating our immune cells to fight infection, clean up debris and denature cancer cells, we are keeping our tissues healthy. Doing several cedar steams a day can help to clear respiratory infections. You can also drink cedar tea by steeping a tablespoon of fresh or dried chopped cedar leaf per cup of water. Many herbalists prefer to steep cedar in cold water and let it sit for several hours or overnight. You only need to drink 1⁄4 to 1⁄2 cup twice a day to get a medicinal effect.††
The Origin of Cedar, The Grandmother Medicine • An Anishinaabe Aadizookaan (Sacred Story)
Long ago gete-Anishinaabeg lived in a time where the breath of forever life stopped. People got sick, at this time Nanabush was grieving the loss of his friend, and it was Nanabush doing that with his door way open. In another village, a grandmother loved her people and cared for the sick. She did everything she could for her community and help them recover, but she too became ill. In her fasting state the creator spoke with her about her love for the people. She returned and died that morning, then her body was placed in the woods. Her body grew out of the ground as medicine. The wind spirit blew her medicine into the air and the rain covered the people. The people remember this smell and medicine. Cedar, the grandmother that loved her people. – Story told by: Ogimaa Wab
Sweetgrass is the sacred hair of mother earth. It can be used as a purifying herb, as incense in smudging. Herbal tea made from the leaves has been used to treat coughs, sore throat & fever. Sweetgrass is a perennial that grows in the northern hemisphere of North American, Asia & Europe. The dried leaves are also used medicinally in herbal teas and essential oil can be distilled from the plant which is then used as a seasoning in foods and alcoholic beverages.
Sweetgrass has a vanilla scented aroma and contains coumarin, which gives the plant its characteristic scent. Coumarin has blood-thinning properties and some research has shown that coumarin and related compounds can be effective in reducing high-protein edemas, especially lymphedema. Though Coumarin in high doses is considered a carcinogen and is used as a flavoring agent in pipe tobacco, but is banned by the FDA as an additive to cigarettes.**
It is said that the sweet-smelling smoke cleanses the spirit and brings sacred messages to the higher planes of existence. It is said that “Wakan Tanka” (Great Spirit) understood messages better if delivered by smoke than those said with words.***
** Source: The Herbal Resource (www.herbal-supplement-resource.com) **Source: http://www.mcgill.ca
Marty Stomping-Elk
The elders tell us that it takes longer for us to heal today and the reason is because the old trails our ancestors used to find us have been destroyed….
So now our ancestors are having a hard time finding us to help us heal.
We are also told that was the first plant to grow on Mother Earth. When we harvest Sweetgrass, we get three bunches of seven strands. So there will be 21 pieces of grass, we do not pull it, this is the hair of Mother Earth. We braid the three strands of seven pieces right there on Mother Earth . Then we gently cut it if we want to state our intentions, we can bring tobacco, to show the Creator in our words, how we will use the Sweetgrass. We can offer something the plant can use, like water to the relations around it, it’s brothers and sisters, mother and father and so on, give them a gift of water.
When we burn Sweetgrass, remember these things: Its a kindness medicine…with a sweet gentle aroma when we light it. Its symbolic…there are 21 strands used to make a braid…
the first 7 strands represent those 7 generations behind us. Our parents. Our grandparents. Our great grandparents and so on for 7 generations behind us – Who we are and what we are is because of them – they’ve brushed and made the trails we’ve walked up until now… but the trails have been destroyed, we’ve lost our connection. The time has come to heal and reconnect with our ancestors.
The next 7 represent the 7 sacred teachings…Love, Respect, Honesty, Courage, Wisdom, Truth and Humility
The elders tell us how simple, powerful and beautiful the teaching are:
Love: unconditional affection with no limits or conditions that starts with loving yourself.
Respect: due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights or traditions of other, with consideration, thoughtfulness, attentiveness, politeness, courtesy, civility, deference.
Honestly: have a character of integrity, and honor be free from fraud or deception, legitimate truthful.
Courage: bravery, permitting one to face extreme dangers with boldness withstanding danger, fear or difficulty.
Wisdom: the quality of having experience, knowledge and good judgment the quality of being wise.
Truth: the face of the matter, veracity, sincere, candor and genuineness a determined in principle entirely by how it relates to things.
Humility: freedom from pride or arrogance, being humble, when we truly understand the teaching of humility, that we are not any better then anyone else and you are not any better then me. That at the end of the day we are simply human beings, this is what makes this teaching powerful and beautiful.
The last 7 strands are those of the 7 generations in front of us. Our children. Our grandchildren. Our great grandchildren. As well as those children yet to be born. It is important because everything we do to Mother earth will one day effect them… We have lost our way, Mother Earth gives us everything we need to heal ourselves and the Earth. We must go back to our roots and bloom.
Sage is a plant that is native to southern Europe and the Mediterranean region but has been naturalized to other warmer temperate climates, including North America. Sage is often used for smudging and as a preparation for ceremony.
Traditionally, the leaves have been made into a poultice and used externally to treat sprains, swelling, ulcers and bleeding. It was also commonly used in tea form to treat sore and it is also considered one of the good herbs for the coughs. Sage is considered by many herbalists to be a useful medicinal herb for treating eczema, canker sores, halitosis, gingivitis.
Garden Sage (Salvia Officinalis) has shown anti-fungal, antiviral, anti-oxidant and anti-bacterial properties that make it a useful weapon in combating many illnesses. Garden sage may be helpful in Type II diabetes for lowering blood sugar levels through Insulin support (although only a mild effect). Garden sage may be taken in tea form, added to foods while cooking, added raw to salads and sandwiches.
The herb can be found in tablet/capsule form. The recommended dosage is usually 400 mg taken one to three times daily. For all commercial products containing sage, the manufacturer’s instructions should be followed. The herb has also its uses in aromatherapy.√
√ Source: The Herbal Resource (www.herbal-supplement-resource.com)
Harvesting Male and Female Sage
Male sage and female sage have features that distinguish them from one another. Male Sage known as Buffalo Sage, is stemmed with leaves, while the Female Sage is stemmed with flowers. Male Sage is most commonly used in Anishinaabe medicine. Female Sage contains seeds that produce the next year’s crop. So it is important not to disturb the Female Sage root and allow the plant to flourish to sustain its growth through time. When picking Sage it is a tradition to offer a gift like Tobacco or a Smudge as thanks.
“I am thankful for my husbands healing hands. He gave me a Fascial Massage and I could feel stress and tension I have been holding for years release in a new way.” (Heather Houston 3-20-26)
“I appreciate sitting in a car warmed by the sun…so yummy to be surrounded by warmth.” (Heather Houston 3-20-26)
“I love the first sunny days in spring.” (Heather Houston 3-20-26)
“I am thankful I am able to clothe myself in all types of weather.” (Heather Houston 3-20-26)
“I am blessed to have a home to live in and share with my husband.” (Heather Houston 3-20-26)
“I appreciate my partner making the most delicious deviled eggs for brunch…even though he was feeling punky. I love you Neil!💗” (Heather Houston 3-20-22)
“I am thankful for spell check.” (Heather Houston 3-20-22)
“I am grateful to have inspiring brain storming conversations with my partner about the abundance we are creating.” (Heather Houston 3-20-22)
“I so appreciate a hot shower.” (Heather Houston 3-20-22)
“I am thankful for beautiful full moons.” (Heather Houston 3-20-22)
Lyrics: Why am I losing sleep over you? Reliving precious moments we knew So many days have gone by Still I’m so lonely and I guess there’s just no getting over you And there’s nothing I can do But spend all of my time out of my mind Over you Within the prison walls of my mind There’s still apart of you left behind And though it hurts I’ll get by Without your loving yet I guess this just no getting over you And there’s nothing I can do But spend all of my time out of my mind Over you And I guess there’s just no getting over you And there’s nothing I can do But spend all of my time out of my mind Over you And I guess there’s just no getting over you And there’s nothing I can do But spend all of my time out of my mind
“Don’t you love it when some incredibly beautiful woman like Linda Evans or Cindy Crawford tells us that the real beauty secret is finding your inner light? No shit. But I’ve done the dame things these women have done to find my inner light and while it’s true I’m happier, I still don’t look lie them.”
Marianne Deborah Williamson (American Author, Spiritual Leader, and Political Activist; July 8th, 1952)
“We can’t all look like Linda Evans or Condy Crawford, but we can each look our best. Simplicity plays a part in striking the right chord of self. This occurs naturally as we begin to rethink how to put together our best look. Our authentic look. Gradually we learn that the ‘less is more’ approach applies to makeup and fashion as well as to decorating and entertaining.”
“Ironically, this desire to look our best comes after we have committed to our inner work. As we go within, searching for spiritual groth, we begin to blossom on the outside. Time well spent in meditation gives us more serenity, and it shows on our faces. Learning to love ourselves exactly as we are gives us motivation to move forward…”
“Why does working on our inner beauty produce outward charm? Perhaps it is because the two are inexorably connected.”
“As is inner, so is the outer.”
Gnostic axiom
“Women who realize thei full potential delight the Great Creator with their brilliance.”
“Before my story began…” (Heather Houston 3-20-22)
1972 Me…at my Aunt Carrie’s Baby Shower
“I have mostly ignored or underestimated my outer beauty. My story whispered to me that I was unlovable, unworthy, not enough. I pursued my inner beauty in hopes of others seeing me and being able to overlook my outward packaging. Ho-Hum…not what I wanted my life to be. I want to feel beautiful inside and out. I strive to work on my own self-image daily.” (Heather Houston 3-20-22)
“I am really at a point where I genuinely like my inside and out. With love in my life for the first time where I can give it freely and receive it without reasons, I am feeling happier and more beautiful than ever. I really love my 50s and my 60s are going to be smashing!”
–Ban Breathnach, Sarah. “Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy”. Grand Central Publishing. (1976). Kindle Page 86-87 of 501.
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#72 I Wonder What She Is Doing Tonight (Tommy Boyce & Bobby Hart) 👍🏼
Lyrics: If I had told her that I loved her She would have stayed ’til who knows when But I guess she couldn’t understand it When I said I want to be your friend Because a friend would never doubt you Or ever put you uptight And now I wonder what she’s doing tonight Oh yes, I wonder What she’s doing tonight Oh-oh, I wonder what she’s doing tonight We were so close but we should’ve been closer And it’s making me feel so sad But I tell myself I didn’t lose her ‘Cause you can’t lose a friend you never had (come on now) Because a friend won’t say it’s over And go out just for spite And now I wonder what she’s doing tonight Oh yes, I wonder What she’s doing tonight Oh-oh, I wonder what she’s doing tonight Because a friend will always be there If you’re wrong or if you’re right And now I wonder what she’s doing tonight Oh yes, I wonder What she’s doing tonight Oh-oh, I wonder what she’s doing tonight
“Repose is a quality too many undervalue. …In the clamor one is irresistibly drawn to the woman who sits gracefully relaxed, who keeps her hands still, talks in a low voice and listens with responsive eyes and smiles. She creates a spell around her, charming to the ear, the eye and the mind.”
Good Housekeeping (November 1947)
“We have all met her, that special woman who draws you into her orb with a radiant smile. Her eyes light up as you tell her how you’ve been. She attracts men, women, children, and animals, for her complete attention is soothing and hypnotic. When you walk away from her you feel as if you have been bathed in a beautiful warm light.”
“You have. It’s called Love, and this ancient beauty secret is available to all of us. When we are genuinely interested in others, a graciousness comes over us that is compelling.
“She did not talk to people as if they were strange hard shells she had to crack open to get inside. She talked as if she were already in the shell. In their very shell.”
Marita Bonner (known as: Marieta Bonner) (American Writer, Essayist, and Playwright; June 16th, 1899 ~ December 6th, 1971)
“Would that each of us were such a woman. Would that each of us could become one. We can. …by taking the time to step outside our own sphere to embrace others, we open ourselves up to the power of Spirit. We are suddenly lit up from inside, and this illumination can transform our looks more effectively than any fancy salon beauty makeover.”
Today, as as if you are a woman with repose of the soul. Greet everyone you meet with a warm smile. …don’t rush your encounters. Speak softly. Listen attentively. Act as if every conversation you have is the most important thing on your mind today. Look…your partner in the eyes when they talk to you. …caress the dog. Lavish love on every living being you meet. See how different you feel at the end of the day.”
“Before my story began…” (Heather Houston 3-19-22)
1972 Me…at my Aunt Carrie’s Baby Shower
“I see parts of me in this charismatic space from time to time. I am already very warm and approachable, which lends itself to this space with others. I think I miss it sometimes as I am oblivious. I need to be more intentional about how I engage with others.” (Heather Houston 3-19-22)
“Repose of the soul is what my husband reminds me of everyday. He says I am a sexy hot fun chic and completely irresistible when I don’t hide. I have spent most of my life hiding behind not being lovable or worthy. No longer. UNLEASH THE SNOW LEOPARD!” (Heather Houston 3-19-26)
–Ban Breathnach, Sarah. “Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy”. Grand Central Publishing. (1976). Kindle Page 85-86 of 501.
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Driving to home eastbound, I spotted a beautiful bald eagle making a landing across the freeway to a large fir tree. It was flying with wings outstretched and talons forward to grab the branches…AMAZING. As I drove past the tree landing I looked to the north and saw the mate circling the marshlands. I am so blessed and in the “FLOW”.🦅🦅