March 22nd, 2026

Why Self-Confidence Can’t Be Bought but Can Be Borrowed

“I was thought to be ‘stuck up.’ I wasn’t. I was just sure of myself. This is and always has been an unforgivable quality to the unsure.”

Ruth Elizabeth “Bette” Davis (American Actress; April 5th, 1908 ~ October 6th, 1989)

“It would be wonderful if we could simply waltz up to a counter and purchase a bottle of self-confidence the way we can buy ‘revitalizing’ or ‘performance’ creams for our faces. Unfortunatey this spiritual elixir, like an expensive perfume, is different on every woman because of individual chemistry.”

“I act as if I’m self-confident and the world takes me as such.”

“When you’re unsure of yourself but life requires you to be otherwise, it is comforting to remember that you can always borrow a self-confident attitude from your authentic self. …Our subconscious mind cannot distinguish between what’s real and what’s imaginary (which is why creative visualization works). If we act as if we’re confident, we become so.”

“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

Anna Eleanor Roosevelt (c, Diplomat, and Activist; October 11th, 1884 ~ November 7th, 1962)

“Before my story began…” (Heather Houston 3-22-22)

“I love to borrow my self-confidence from my dominant side of my personality all of the time. BRILLIANT!” (Heather Houston 3-22-22)

“I am leaning into my self-confidence much more these days as I now live from my dominant self which is so authentic and natural for me. When I stay in the “sexy, hot, fun chic” arena, the world unfolds for me newly and powerfully.” (Heather Houston 3-22-26)

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–Ban Breathnach, Sarah. “Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy”. Grand Central Publishing. (1976). Kindle Page 88-89 of 501.

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